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Denial, Degradation and Deceit

I imagine all those kids in the schoolyard—as well as the eagle-eyed teachers and parents watching over them—will never have to give the slightest thought as who they are or where they came from…as does my Vittoria. For these fortunate folks their histories are secure. And in that history they and their children and grandchildren and distant heirs will reside in comfort until the island of Ischia, having risen up from the sea in a volcanic cataclysm eons ago, finally descends back into it.

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“For generations, adoption in this country was characterized by denial, degradation and deceit. Many adoptive parents were counseled to pretend they'd given birth to their children. It was considered ‘good practice’ to advise biological mothers (and fathers, when they were involved) to forget about the children they had created and ‘move on.’

“Adopted people were treated differently: They were routinely denied their medical histories in order to maintain secrecy, for instance, and they were told that the most human of instincts — wanting to know who you are and where you came from — did not apply to them.” [My emphasis.]

--From an editorial essay in The Los Angeles Times, December 21, 2004, by Adam Pertman, executive director of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute and author of "Adoption Nation: How the Adoption Revolution Is Transforming America," Basic Books, 2000.

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What a great picture...just quietly brilliant.

No nice of you to say, thanks!

why are there always those who are so amused by lenses? I ask . . .

What Are YOU Looking At?

The one on the right probably recognizes me as the crazy Americano who lives alone--can you imagine!--up on the mountain. Her companion is ready to call the Carabinnieri, because she sees a telephoto merely as the visible manifestation of pedophilic leanings.

Re: What Are YOU Looking At?

haha! I think you are one of those people that will never quite fit in anywhere too.

I am very much into genealogy and family history and cant imagine not knowing or being denied that information. Even the thought of being told it didnt apply to me, to forget it, would drive me nuts!

I've seen some of my adopted friends go through serious crises because they felt rootless, or because their adoptive parents had such strange attitudes towards the whole process of adoption. I've always wanted to adopt kids, rather than have them -- my stepbrother is adopted, and he was on the verge of starving to death when he came into our family, because he had been receiving such poor care. My partner and I have actually been talking about this a lot lately. It is rough to know that our son or daughter would face such big questions, that we couldn't guide him/her through.

(Rather than get pregnant & give birth, I mean -- I realize there was some weird language in the second sentence.)

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